Feeling the emotional stress of planning a wedding? It’s hardly surprising. There’s a lot to consider - from choosing the perfect wedding colour scheme to making a wedding gift list – it can be an overhelming time, full of emotion. From huge highs to dramatic lows, we’ve put together the 39 stages every bride goes through to prove you’re not alone.
1. You think your partner might propose soon but you’re trying to act cool
You have a good feeling that your partner is about to propose. His sudden interest in jewellery has got your attention and with your restaurant reservation coming up soon, you can’t help but wonder.
2. You’re engaged!
Despite your suspicions, your partner has managed to pop the question and every inch of your body is buzzing with excitement.
3. You just can’t wait to tell everyone
You’ve called your mum and best friend to tell them the news, but it’s time to announce it on Facebook and make sure that you’ve nailed your engagement ring selfie.
4. The questions begin
You’ve been engaged for a week, and now people seem to think that you have the answers to all their wedding questions. Where is your venue? Who are your bridesmaids? It is becoming overwhelming.
5. Looking at ideas is so exciting
As you begin to look at wedding websites and blogs, all your ideas are coming together and you find the excitement buzz is back!
6. With so many ideas, you realise how much planning you need to do
As beautiful as this inspiration is, you are starting to feel overwhelmed again by how much planning is required for your big day. You always pictured a summer wedding but now you’re not so sure and having to consider your budget makes everything even more complicated.
7. You visit some venues and find the one you love
After some serious research, you chose a selection of venues and have found THE ONE. Nearly in tears, your excitement is definitely back!
8. You book the venue, set a date and feel so organised
Your wedding planning is incredibly smooth so far, and now that everything has been confirmed you are feeling so smug, and a bit more relaxed
9. You shortlist all your favourite ideas
Using Pinterest and Instagram, you start working on your wedding style to try and figure out your wedding theme.
10. You create the perfect wedding day
Hours of searching through little details on Pinterest boards, you have chosen a colour scheme and decided on the finishing touches to make your perfect day.
11. You price it up - how much?!
After totting up all your favourite ideas, you have completely gone over your budget. And to make things worse, you haven’t even included the unforeseen wedding costs.
12. You realise you need to reign it in
Taking the time to sulk, you have finally realised that you need to cut back on your spending in order to meet your budget.
13. You book a dress appointment
The moment every bride waits for- choosing the dress. With your budget in mind, you are free to book appointments and search with determination for your dream dress.
14. You vow to never eat carbs
Searching for dresses has made you excited, but it has also made you want to never eat carbs again. Well, at least until your honeymoon.
15. You find the dress
Feeling relieved and also sick to your stomach, you have found the dress - now you are on the ultimate high and cannot stop planning!
16. You’re happy again
You now have the dream dress, a perfect venue and can sit back feeling smug at how much you have accomplished
17. You start to search for suppliers
It’s time to get all the smaller elements of your wedding booked, so you start to think about the florist and caterers. These all play an important part in your special day.
18. You realise your guest list is almost double your estimation
The nitty-gritty of the wedding planning involves writing down every name for your guest list. Obviously panicking, you are forced to think about who you can take off the list.
19. You prioritise your guest list
Thinking seriously, you remove some guests from the list and achieve a more reasonable number. It was hard, but you feel a sense of achievement from completing this task.
20. You send your save the dates
Sending off your ‘save the dates’ allows you to feel relieved and on top of your planning.
21. All is calm
Now all you have to do is work on your invites. You love this relaxed planning stage.
22. You send your invitations
Time is flying by and it’s time to send out the invitations. After triple checking names and addresses, you are all ready to go!
23. You wait for the RSVP
It’s exactly 24 hours since you sent your invites, so why has no one RSVP'd yet?
24. Not everyone RSVPs
You made sure you clearly stated your RSVP deadline, however some guests have still not replied. This is so frustrating and you’re trying to control your rage.
25. All RSVPs are in and you start to finalise details
After waiting FOREVER, all the RSVPs have been returned! You have carefully noted the guest list and you can start to finalise all little details of your big day.
26. The wedding gets closer and you’re SO excited
All your ideas have come together and you can’t wait to share them with your friends and family. You are so excited you could burst!
27. Then you start to cry for no reason
Despite feeling organised and on top of all planning, you are feeling emotionally vulnerable and can’t help the sudden outbursts.
28. Then you panic
You need to slow down in your organising and take a moment to breathe. Panicking is causing you to start worrying about absolutely EVERYTHING
29. Then you fight with your fiancé because they just don’t get it
Despite your best efforts to try and relax about the wedding, your stresses are causing you and your partner to argue.
30. Then all the plans start to come together
Your emotional rollercoaster is coming to an end, and your wedding plans are falling into place nicely so you can finally start to relax.
31. The night before the wedding comes and you’re running around like a mad woman
Although you had imagined the day before your wedding a relaxing one, you can’t help yourself from running around checking that everything is ready
32. You have an early night
Although still fidgeting, you actually manage to get a good night sleep before the big day.
33. You wake up early, super excited!
The day is finally here! Refreshed from your early night and a stomach full of butterflies, you are feeling happy!
34. Your bridesmaids start to arrive and it feels real
As everyone starts to get ready, beneath your excitement there is definitely stress. You are panicking about the girls’ lipstick and you are going to need someone to assist you to the loo.
35. You have your dress on and you’re ready to go!
It has suddenly hit you how real this is feeling. A mixed feeling of nerves and excitement.
36. You’re about to walk down the aisle
Keep breathing… you are about to live the most amazing moment.
37. You can see your partner and want to burst with excitement
The sight of your partner at the end of the aisle is overwhelming. You immediately forget the hundreds of guests you have invited, you can’t think of anything else except him.
38. You have the best day of your life!
Vows out of the way, beautiful photos taken and now you sit for your carefully selected wedding menu. It’s officially time to relax and enjoy.
39. Then you live happily ever after
Your big day is over and now you can remain in your happy bubble as you jet off on your honeymoon! Up next is the big journey of married life where you will live happily ever after.
The wedding may be over but the jobs aren’t done quite yet- make sure you take a look at our post wedding to-do list.