Religious or civil ceremony?

Choosing whether to have a religious or civil ceremony can be a stumbling block for some couples. Whilst some know without fail that they want a religious ceremony and others know they definitely don't want a religious ceremony there are those in between who are just not sure which to have. They may be feeling pressurised because their parents want them to have a church wedding or they may even be undecided between themselves.

To help you decide which type of ceremony might suit you best, here's a quick look at the pros and cons of each.

Pros of a religious ceremony

Churches are the obvious choice if you are heavily into tradition and they have a special ambience about them that civil venues often don't have

You will be married by a member of the clergy

Costs more than a civil ceremony

Cons of a religious ceremony

South Africa is a vast country and huge parts of it are miles away from both towns and churches. If you are planning on getting married in a Game Lodge, the nearest suitable church could be hundreds of miles away

More notice is required for a church wedding than a civil often more than 6 months in advance.

You may have to meet in person before consent is given to marry you at the parish of your choice

Rehearsals will be necessary

Pros of a civil ceremony

More versatility – civil ceremonies can take place at any location in South Africa provided the marriage is performed by a designated marriage officer usually a judge or magistrate

Quite often the wedding ceremony and the reception take place in the same venue which makes travel arrangements far easier for guests

There is no need for you to speak or meet with the marriage officer beforehand

Civil ceremonies are great for couples who have totally opposite views on marriage and allows the wedding to take place.

Can be arranged quicker

Cons of a civil ceremony

A register office ceremony can seem a little rushed and impersonal and there may well be other people waiting to follow you.

You may be limited to the number of guests who can witness your wedding