Maid of Homour

How do you choose your MOH? I mean I have two really close great friends who have always been there for me. The one is an extravert, self suficient, bombastic, creative, considerate and wonderful. The other is just as grand, she gets things done but is not as "ballsy" as the other. They are both soft hearted and I know if I chose one over the other the none MOH will be hurt. So I am thinking, why cant I have both of them. I mean the one lives in JHB which is 2hrs away from me and the other lives in KZN, which is where I want to get married. I mean I have been on website after website looking for tips on who to chose, I was even thinking about asking my mom to be my MOH. Do you think it would be ok having both of them? I love them both and could never chose from them. Let me know what you think.

Me and my sisters had this problem as there are 3 of us! The way we did it is on rotation, so I was my youngest sister's MOH, she was my older sister's MOH and my older sister will be mine, that way no one is left out!

But if you're two best friends aren't close with each other then I think you can definitely have two, I've been to weddings with two best men before so why not two maids of honour!

I think you can definitely have two! Are you having any other bridesmaids as well as your two best friends?

@ LCBride; thanks for that I think I will do just that. I spoke with my mom and she agreed with me, they are both very close to me and to choose would be asking me to choose between pizza and MacDonalds. Impossible.

@Amanda1981; I agree where does it say that I cant have two. Well i will have two MOH and one bridesmaid.

Would you guys think that we would have to have our future sister-in-law as part of the bridal party? I havent asked her or actually discussed it with the other half, but I dont think I should feel obliged? I mean last night he told me my brother would be one of his groomsmen, and I told him he didnt have to because of me. Said he wanted to from the begining... jeppers there is so much to think about.

Hey Darchak, I think it sounds like you should have 2 MOH's... at the end of the day, it's your wedding and you can do what you like! I have 2 best friends, but they are both very different people and it was kind of easier to pick which one is going to be able to help me organise my day with me, as the otherone is very close to my heart, but not exactly the reliable type!!

My H2B is having 2 best men though! I think that's becoming more common as I have been to a few weddings where that has been the case, so maybe you could start a new trend of having 2 MOH's!

The involving your other half's siblings is a bit more tricky. I suppose it depends on how close you are to her? We have actually had the same issue but on the reverse - I am quite close to my future sister-in-law, so she is one of my bridesmaids! But my H2B and my brother aren't really "friends" yet he feels obliged to have my brother as one of the ushers, as it's the "thing to do" !! It's kind of nice though as it's a way of bringing the 2 families together.

Can you think of a job that would be good for your future sister-in-law? Something important like collecting flowers or giving a reading at the ceremony? That way she could be involved but without being too involved?

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